Why world is going to be a better place for women in future?

The ability to recognize and feel emotions is one of the fundamental human qualities. I have no idea at what point in evolution people started undermining emotions. As a matter of fact, if you see MBTI- there are feminine traits and there are masculine traits. As a society, we have learnt to overvalue masculine traits and undervalue feminine traits-

• Introversion (F) Vs Extroversion (M) - Extroversion is valued
• Intuition (F) Vs Sensation (M) - Sensation is valued
• Feeling (F) Vs Thinking (M) - Thinking is valued
• Perception (F) Vs Judgment (M) - Judgment is valued

I am sure it must have served some purpose. But if anyone is observing a 180 degree change in the way human mind is adapting to its environment after computer science and new age thinking changed the way we perceive our world, it should not come as news that soon, demographics will change.

The New Age world will demand more-

·        Introversion
Intuition
Feeling
Perception

I do not make a claim that these qualities are present in women only, not at all. I say that these qualities are feminine in nature. A man can have feminine qualities and a woman can have masculine qualities. The world we are going to face in future will demand that both men and women possess the qualities in equal balance.

The need for men in war is decreasing (or should decrease) and the need for men in home is increasing. Similarly, today, a woman doesn't have to choose between staying with her kids vs. going out in the world to make a living. Any creative mind can think of thousands of ways to make the best of both the worlds. This change in scenario is going to change the way human beings have lived the lives till this point in evolution.

Look at it this way; say you are going to a school. Till last year, in your school kids who scored high in Maths were considered geniuses and kids who scored high in drawing were considered idiots. Now, M F Hussain becomes the principal of your school and he decides to score people on their drawing aptitude. Don’t you think that the dynamics of the school and the way people are graded will change? Of course, it will. Same thing is going to happen about the perception of women in future generations. For the first time in history of humanity, women will actually be respected as much as men. It’s because the world is coming to a point where feminine traits have finally gained respect.

I have a strong belief that in so-called Satyuga of India, this was the situation. Women had true respect in society. Not because, it was a Satyuga or something. But because the qualities that are more naturally present in women were highly respected in society. The feminine qualities had true respect in society.

In Praise of Slowness

I have made a decision. It is a creative decision but feels as important as life itself. Starting today, every single day I will make one entry in one of my blogs. 

I want to send the signal to Soul of Universe that I am absolutely ready to be heard. I feel like a person who has found her medium. There was silence. Few minutes back there was complete silence and now I hear the humming of the souls and breaths…

I feel alive. It is unique to feel alive in spite of the fact that every single “alive” moment we share this experience with so many others.

I am drinking this night time green tea, never thought I will fall in love with green teas; but never say never, here I am sitting at my laptop and shipping green tea, something I have recently got addicted to.

It took me time to find answers. Yes, I am slow, very slow and in a world where speed is considered synonymous with effectiveness, I am not effective; but then there are this corners of life where your voice just speaks and you don’t care about who hears you. And in that place, you suddenly say, “I don’t mind being slow”

I am slow, and I am ok with it. I learn at snail’s speed, and that doesn't make me a fool. Why are we so obsessed with the finishing line? Is it a crime to savor the moments and enjoy the journey with all that virginity we will never experience once we reach the destination? There is still voice that says, no, it is not a crime. It sounds like a voice of a child. It feels that there is this little voice of 5-7 years old. She is not self assured. She wants the approval. She feels the fear, just like every other emotion, she feels it like a tornado. When she answers me in that voice, I know I can hear her. But then the cacophony starts and I start to miss out on all those voices. I feel desperate most of the time. I fear the slowness. I try to be fast. I hurt my metaphysical knees. I have to slow down. I feel inferior and again that voice, why are you running? It is so wonderful out here. Where do you want to reach? I don’t know. I want to reply. But in lack of right words, yes, adults hardly find right words, I tell her to shut up. She goes and sits in a corner. I know she is right. It doesn't take maturity to realize that she is right. It requires courage, and most often adults don’t have courage. 

Ode to Kaizen- Week 7- First goal- Weight loss

I have overwhelmed myself in past by trying to achieve too many things- all at the same time. I tell myself- if I can’t achieve them all- there is no point. Even at this point, I do stand by my opinion- a person got to try and achieve it all. But no person can achieve it all at the same time. If there are 6 areas of my life which are mess- I can’t clean all of them up magically in one day. I need to go about them one by one. I have picked my sequence- first and foremost- I am going to get control over my weight. I want to return my mirror what it has lost few years back.

Juvenile Crime

I was reading about this experiment-

Scientists in 60s were monitoring monkeys on a remote Japanese island who were cleaning sand off sweet potatoes by washing them in a stream. When the critical mass of monkeys doing this activity reached a certain number, primates on another island began doing the same thing. Ken Keyers Jr. took this experiment as a metaphor for an individual’s personal responsibility to think peace. You never know if you might be the “hundredth monkey” exploding the common consciousness into mass understanding-

Moral of the story- if you think something has to be done keep doing it- it might change the way things are done by EVERYONE

And that brings me back to the topic of juvenile crime-

There are 3 factors which have to be considered very seriously in matter of juvenile crime-

1- In many states where Government jobs are a fad- the registered birthdays of children is not accurate- not just in lower classes, but also in middle class. In India where documentation process has lots of loopholes- how sensible it is to keep laws which depend on these false documents?

2- Even if the date of a criminal’s birth is correct, if system sticks to juvenile laws- is it not sending the signal to youth- if you want to commit a crime do it before you turn 18? So rather than discouraging child abuse- is our system not motivating the youth to abuse others??

3- And third, last but most important, not just in case of rape- but for any sex offense- how sensible is it to stick to juvenile laws- if a 16 year old boy sexually abuse a 15 year old girl (real case)- is he not doing crime of heinous nature for which he must be punished. If a person is mature enough to force others to comply with his sexual needs- he is surely mature enough to bear the consequence.

Sexual crimes must NOT undertake the age of criminal in consideration.

And a law has to be passed in this regard- IT IS HIGH TIME FOR THE CHANGE

Past- A Poem

There are so many corners.

I don’t even know where to begin.

There are so many distortions; I don’t know what to trust.

There are only inferences and that too at the place where I want to find them.

There is no truth.

So what am I looking for?

Am I looking for only a good story?

Thank You- Mrityunjay

5 years is not a small time. People lose trust in their own selves in such a long duration. I lost trust in me. I started thinking my words are meaningless, my existence inconsequential- but you didn’t think that. You loved me when I was at my worst. You loved me when it was impossible for me to love my own self. Mrityunjay Gautam- my husband- my lover- my best friend- I want to thank you today- for being who you are to me. 

At this moment I am feeling love for you in every single pore of my body- every corner of my mind and soul. When I looked around and found just darkness- you held my hand and told me, trust me and walk- I will not leave your hand. I continued to walk in darkness. Did it frustrate me? Yes it did and how! So when I stumbled on my way, who was the person who became the target of my laments and swears- you. Then what did you do? You didn’t leave my hand even when I struggled- you told me. You will walk with me.

Today I thank you for walking with me. I thank you for tolerating me. I thank you for loving me.

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love- there are 2 kinds of love a human being experiences-

1- Conditional love- father’s love

2- Unconditional love- mother’s love

In all the other relationship in life, we try to replicate one of the patterns of loving. A person develops the ability to love unconditionally- either through discipline and working on one’s psychology- or through the way she was loved as a kid. In other words, if a person was loved unconditionally say 8 points on a scale of 10- the person will develop the ability to love unconditionally 8 points on a scale of 10. 

The world does become a much better place if people learn how to love unconditionally.

So the easiest way to make the world a better place is to love your own child.