Funny Thing About Relationships

THE FUNNY THING ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS

I am realizing a funny truth. Any person who has ever been serious about losing weight will never say that it is not important to know his body. Any person who wants to excel in the field of his choosing will never say that education in his area of expertise is not important. But most of the people will assume that knowing about relationship and its dynamics are not important. They feel that they know it. If you will ask them how they know it, they will not be able to tell. But they just know that they know. This is the funny thing. 

Relationship are more if not less complicated than making money, having sex, staying thin or working your way to top- yet people are not willing to accept it. They are not ready to learn about it. They are not ready to work for it. Why? 

We feel that because we have a husband or a wife, we understand marriage.

We feel that because we have kids, we understand parenting.

We feel that because we have parents, we understand how they affected our lives. 

No, we don’t know anything. And this ignorance can cause you a life time of loneliness and sadness. And yet, people are not ready to understand the importance of the art of human relationship to run their lives. 

I am ready to work on my relationship. I don’t want to buy the stupid thought that if I will work on my relationship I would not be able to make money or career. It is the most stupid pep-thought. Sadly it is ingrained in us with such ferocity that we really put relationship behind in life to go ahead. No, if there is any meaning to anything, it is relationship. It is important for me that I should be able to love my life partner. It is important for me that I should be able to parent my child. It is important for me that I should be able to stand by my family and friends. And no, it doesn’t make me less of a professional. 

I am not going to let stupid people force me into believing that relationships are not important.

Ajna Chakra- Vision and Free Will

AJNA CHAKRA

I would not be claiming any discovery if I will say that “creative visualization” is a great technique to influence reality. People use the word creative visualization in different ways. I use the word to describe day dreaming. In other words visualize what you want to happen. E.g. if I want to have 123230 Rs in my bank account, I visualize it in as much detail as possible. I visualize that I sit at my spot. I opened my bank account. I enter the customer id and password. And there is the money, cr. in my account. This is what I mean by creative visualization. 

The chakra which has the power to turn these visions into reality is the 6^th chakra, Ajna chakra. In other words, there is a chakra in human mind-body system which can turn any vision into reality. If we possess so much power, power of vision, why all our wishes don’t come true? This is the tricky part. Any vision can turn into reality based on how many freewill it is colliding with. If my vision collide with say, 5 other free will, it’s potential to turn into reality goes down. If my vision is supported by 5 other free wills, its potential to turn into a reality is almost certain. (5 is a random number.) 

E.g. A parent wants her son to be a doctor. But the son wants to be a writer. Here the vision of the parent is colliding with the free will of the son. The potential of this vision’s turning into reality goes down. 

I want to write a daily show and getting paid for it. Producer X wants a good writer and is willing to pay me handsomely for my work. The potential of this vision’s turning into reality goes up. 

In other words, the more your vision accommodates others, the higher are the chances that it will turn into reality. 

Vision is a powerful tool to influence the day to day reality of a person’s life. From day to day reality, I remember another thought which passed my head today, which I liked- In the long course of time, there are really few actions which matters. And yet, we forget to do all those small things which can make us happy today- in our now- for making a difference in the long course of time. That is funny!

Accidental Discovery

Friday, January 11, 2013

Today when I was doing my 30 minutes cardio- walking in the compound, I made a discovery. 1 round takes about 5 minutes of my walking time. Today I associated my focus on one of my chakras with each round.

·         So during the first round I was thinking about my financial life and goals.

·         During the second round I was thinking about my fitness goals and sex life.

·         During the third round I was thinking about my work life and goals.

·         During the fourth round I was thinking about my love life.

·         During the fifth round I was thinking about GWHC and my creative goals.

·         During the sixth round I was thinking about Agrima and my vision goals, what is my north pole?

Oh man, this concentrated thinking changed everything about my walk. With each round, I felt better and better. It was like, oh, why I didn’t think of this before. I have always believed that a person should take out some time every morning and think where he wants to lead his life. This exercise simply gave me that space and how! I loved it.

I also thought about the existential thought- this might be my last day on this planet, in that case nothing matters, but if I will live to see another day, I want to be a stronger and better person. I think this is an important realization. Yes, an accident can change everything about a person’s reality. The point is, if the day goes in regular fashion, are you able to get the best out of your life?

One more change I think is needed in my practices. I used to write morning page- poison pen in the morning. I think that has a potential of going wrong. I understand that it is important to feed negative emotions- fear, anger, disgust and sadness also, but the practice in the morning can set the whole day on the wrong foot. If I have to do poison pen, I can do it only in the afternoon before work- so even if some negative emotions are stirred in my system, I can sublimate in my work and my home life would not be affected by them.