Ode to Kaizen- Week 7- First goal- Weight loss

I have overwhelmed myself in past by trying to achieve too many things- all at the same time. I tell myself- if I can’t achieve them all- there is no point. Even at this point, I do stand by my opinion- a person got to try and achieve it all. But no person can achieve it all at the same time. If there are 6 areas of my life which are mess- I can’t clean all of them up magically in one day. I need to go about them one by one. I have picked my sequence- first and foremost- I am going to get control over my weight. I want to return my mirror what it has lost few years back.

Juvenile Crime

I was reading about this experiment-

Scientists in 60s were monitoring monkeys on a remote Japanese island who were cleaning sand off sweet potatoes by washing them in a stream. When the critical mass of monkeys doing this activity reached a certain number, primates on another island began doing the same thing. Ken Keyers Jr. took this experiment as a metaphor for an individual’s personal responsibility to think peace. You never know if you might be the “hundredth monkey” exploding the common consciousness into mass understanding-

Moral of the story- if you think something has to be done keep doing it- it might change the way things are done by EVERYONE

And that brings me back to the topic of juvenile crime-

There are 3 factors which have to be considered very seriously in matter of juvenile crime-

1- In many states where Government jobs are a fad- the registered birthdays of children is not accurate- not just in lower classes, but also in middle class. In India where documentation process has lots of loopholes- how sensible it is to keep laws which depend on these false documents?

2- Even if the date of a criminal’s birth is correct, if system sticks to juvenile laws- is it not sending the signal to youth- if you want to commit a crime do it before you turn 18? So rather than discouraging child abuse- is our system not motivating the youth to abuse others??

3- And third, last but most important, not just in case of rape- but for any sex offense- how sensible is it to stick to juvenile laws- if a 16 year old boy sexually abuse a 15 year old girl (real case)- is he not doing crime of heinous nature for which he must be punished. If a person is mature enough to force others to comply with his sexual needs- he is surely mature enough to bear the consequence.

Sexual crimes must NOT undertake the age of criminal in consideration.

And a law has to be passed in this regard- IT IS HIGH TIME FOR THE CHANGE

Past- A Poem

There are so many corners.

I don’t even know where to begin.

There are so many distortions; I don’t know what to trust.

There are only inferences and that too at the place where I want to find them.

There is no truth.

So what am I looking for?

Am I looking for only a good story?

Thank You- Mrityunjay

5 years is not a small time. People lose trust in their own selves in such a long duration. I lost trust in me. I started thinking my words are meaningless, my existence inconsequential- but you didn’t think that. You loved me when I was at my worst. You loved me when it was impossible for me to love my own self. Mrityunjay Gautam- my husband- my lover- my best friend- I want to thank you today- for being who you are to me. 

At this moment I am feeling love for you in every single pore of my body- every corner of my mind and soul. When I looked around and found just darkness- you held my hand and told me, trust me and walk- I will not leave your hand. I continued to walk in darkness. Did it frustrate me? Yes it did and how! So when I stumbled on my way, who was the person who became the target of my laments and swears- you. Then what did you do? You didn’t leave my hand even when I struggled- you told me. You will walk with me.

Today I thank you for walking with me. I thank you for tolerating me. I thank you for loving me.

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love- there are 2 kinds of love a human being experiences-

1- Conditional love- father’s love

2- Unconditional love- mother’s love

In all the other relationship in life, we try to replicate one of the patterns of loving. A person develops the ability to love unconditionally- either through discipline and working on one’s psychology- or through the way she was loved as a kid. In other words, if a person was loved unconditionally say 8 points on a scale of 10- the person will develop the ability to love unconditionally 8 points on a scale of 10. 

The world does become a much better place if people learn how to love unconditionally.

So the easiest way to make the world a better place is to love your own child.